The secret to a loving and peaceful existence is good fences, healthy boundaries that say, “This is me. That is you. And we both matter.” Every person is unique and has his or her own set of experiences that have … Continued
We never really know what another person is thinking or feeling, and therefore cannot always know the right thing to say or do when things become difficult or heated. Our natural instinct is to protect ourselves via the fight or … Continued
John and Lucy came to see me and chose to sit across the room from one another instead of sharing the couch. It was clear they needed some space from one another. Their distress was easy to see, as they … Continued
We’re coming into the Fall season, which sends a breath of exhilaration through the hearts of many, just as it brings the relief of crisp cool evenings after a hot summer. The beauty of the leaves changing colors, smell of … Continued
Recently, one of my dear friends was verbally accosted by her co-worker. Taken by surprise at first, she was blindsided by his vicious and uninvited criticism. She felt the sting of shock as he started to siphon her energy. But … Continued
Abigail had a succession of really bad days in which people either directly insulted her, pushed past her without noticing she was there, or blamed her for things she had nothing to do with. At first angry, she grappled with … Continued
If you knew that you would be successful when you took a chance and ventured out, would you do it? How about if you knew that you’d learn something important, even if it didn’t work out the way you’d planned, … Continued
This is a time of the year when many of us are starting new things: a new school year for students and teachers, the last half of the year for corporations, the end of the summer, and the beginning of … Continued
Avery Soul is the main character in the book Tending Fences. Through his good work of mindfully building useful fences to fortify his connections with his neighbors, Avery learns a thing or two about how to make his world a … Continued
Stress Remedy # 1 When faced with the kind of stress that has you either running in circles getting nowhere or frozen in place, I have a tried and true remedy. It works every time. When all else fails, de-clutter … Continued